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  • What is Positive Parenting?

    “You better listen or else!”

    How many times did your parents say this phrase to you? How often were you spanked as a child? How much yelling was there in your house growing up?

    It’s safe to say that parenting styles have changed over the years. While spanking may have been deemed okay years ago, most parents agree now that hitting a child is not okay, for any reason. Shame, yelling, and “scare tactics” are also, thankfully, out of fashion.

    Many of today’s parents are trying to use positive parenting techniques instead so that their children do not develop mental health issues.

    What is Positive Parenting?

    Positive parenting refers to a parenting style that relies on warmth, nurturing, and mindfulness. This type of parenting reinforces good behavior and avoids using harsh forms of discipline.

    Positive parenting has been shown to facilitate numerous favorable outcomes. It has been linked to better grades in school, better behavior, more positive self-concepts, less substance abuse, and better overall mental health.

    Strategies for Positive Parenting

    Positive Parenting has three main components:

    1. Regulate Your Own Emotions

    How often have you had a bad day at work and yelled at your kids when you got home? It is very common for parents, either consciously or unconsciously, to take their bad emotions out on their children.

    To parent positively means you have got to get a hold of your own emotions so you can interact with your child in a kind, loving, and honest manner. This takes intentionally and a lot of practice!

    2. Focus on Strengthening the Parent-Child Connection

    It can be easier said than done, but each interaction with your child should strengthen the connection between you both. Focusing on “connection” first and “correction” second will be more effective during challenges moments. When a parent-child connection is strong, the child will feel safe, be able to trust, and is more likely to comply with your requests.

    3. Love Your Child Unconditionally

    Many punishment techniques throughout the years rely on a parent “withdrawing” their love. This conditional love can cause great emotional and psychological harm to your child. Instead, focus on being a coach and mentor to your child, offering them loving guidance and reassurance to help them manage their emotions and behaviors.

    It can also be very helpful to get some help from a parenting coach or family therapist who can help guide you in becoming the loving and compassionate parent you want to be.

    If you would like to explore counseling options, please be in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.